MOMMIES' NOTE

How To Stop Tantrum's Child At Public Area

2011-02-12T21:06:00.001-08:00

Children who have stopped raging at home also need to be told if tantrums in public will be the same rewarded. That consequences may be difficult to the parents.When your little angels precious act in public is staring at you, scathing comments and chatter that is so cornered, you feel as a parent who has failed miserably.

You are a precious little angel began raging in public, you have to give response.Tell him that you will not tolerate his behavior, but always start with a time-out, in a place where the child can try to soothe themself.

Just try this step :
1. Tell the child that if he does not calm down, he will enter time out.Then count to five as a warning.
2. Then take your child to a quiet place for one minute for each year of age.
3. Ask whether the child is ready to discuss the problem calmly.
4. Listen to the child, and thank him because he have talked.Take him back to shop, eat, or whatever activity you are doing.
5. Back to your previous activity.

Only when the child could not calm himself, then you say to him if you are with your child away from that place, and then really go with the kids following you.
We've left a lot of shop. We never left so much stuff in the shop.We've often said to the children if they do not calm down, they will sit in the security office until lunch over.We ever come out of the restaurant before the meal is presented, with six childs following, when one of them behaving outrageous (and then return to eat when the child has been quiet).

Remember, the earlier you prepare your children about what will happen when you leave the house, the less likely they will behave strangely. (Nanny 911)

Buying and Selling Used Homeschool Curriculum

2011-02-11T03:14:00.000-08:00

If the idea of using used homeschool curriculum for your kids seems tacky, then you need to re-think the matter. Used curriculum is often in excellent quality, the information is the same as in new books, and it can save you an enormous amount of money.

As you begin your homeschool, you'll quickly find that the biggest expense will be the curriculum. This is true for every homeschool family. Thus, each year, every parent finds themselves asking the same question: How can we make the curriculum fit in with our budgets. The good news is that this does not have to break you, thanks to affordable curriculum alternatives.

The best option: Find some place that sells used curriculum materials in good condition. By doing so, you can save more than half of your brand-new curriculum costs. What's more, at the end of the school year, you can round up all of that year's materials and re-sell them, thus recovering even more of the money you spent. If you choose to go the used routes, here are some suggestions that might help you in your quest to buy and sell used homeschool curriculum:

1) Keep an eye on auction websites. The bigger ones have an enormous amount of almost everything, and this includes homeschool material. You can often score quite the bargain here--as well as sell your old stuff at a decent price.

2) Likewise, the big-named booksellers have textbook and workbook materials for your homeschool. And the biggest names let you buy either new or used.

3) Don't forget to visit your local library. Most are chock full of school texts and workbooks, which you can use at no charge whatsoever!

4) Here's our suggested process when you get ready to buy and sell curriculum materials. First, look through the catalog from which you normally order your curriculum. Find all of the items you'll need for the next term for all classes. Then examine last year's curriculum, nothing everything that you can get rid of. Now make a list of all of the things that you don't need that you think others might want to buy. Then make a price list, giving a price to everything on your list of items. Finally, go to the major auction and classified-ad sites to sell your used items.

There is one other option that many people forget when discussing buying and selling curriculum. Most homeschool families know other homeschool families. Why not create an exchange that includes all of the homeschool families you know? This way, everyone in the exchange can make use of curriculum materials that other members no longer need. You can include other supplies in the exchange, too: chalkboards, erasers, pencils, markers, swab boards and swab, plus many other items.

The benefit of buying used homeschool curriculum is the advantage of spending little money on what are perfectly fine school materials. Keep in mind that the important thing in a textbook is the information it contains. And information stays just as beneficial and valuable, no matter how used the pages are. Buying used is smart, not tacky.

How to Involve Children in Leadership Roles

2011-02-11T02:35:00.000-08:00

Involving children in leadership roles is a great way to encourage their ability to lead a team and take responsibility for it at such a young age. This type of skill takes a bit of time and practice to develop. You can help your child perform a better job as a leader by exposing them to an environment wherein they can take the lead.
Assign Them Tasks
Before one can become a leader, they must learn how to follow first. You must therefore assign your child tasks that require them to do something. You can start out with a simple task first and evaluate how well they have performed in it. Focus on tasks that promote a variety of skills. If you have a major task for them to do, break that down into smaller tasks that are easier to achieve.
Focus on enabling them to adapt a variety of skills through the task, such as team work, communication, and working on relationships. All of these are vital to turning one into a leader.
Get Them To Lead an Activity
Once they have learned what it takes to be a follower, you can assign them the opportunity to take on a leadership role. Make sure to start with small such as letting them plan a game or fun activity with other kids. You can also focus on specific tasks that are easier for them to handle, such as teaching younger siblings on a specific subject, or planning a fun activity. Focus on allowing them to share their skills and knowledge by breaking down steps to a larger goal.
Get Them Involved in Event Planning
If you are not too confident about allowing your child to take over planning or leading of an activity, why not get them involved in yours? Practical application is indeed the best teacher. A good idea is to assign them smaller tasks in an event planning, which also benefits you as you can get an extra pair of hands. One example would be to help them in planning the party for their birthday celebration. If you can get them involved, they would appreciate the celebration even more knowing that they took part in putting it together.
Identify What Leadership Roles Fit For Them
Being a leader does not mean that you can take on literally any task that you are assigned with. You need to think about this when training your children in leadership roles. It can stretch their abilities and could put on too much pressure on them. Learn how to identify specific skills that they have and look at how you can utilize that in leadership roles to nourish their ability to lead others. If their leadership role requires a skill that they already have, leading others will naturally follow.
Encourage Participation in School Clubs or Groups
The best training ground for children to become a leader is at school by joining groups and clubs. Allow your child to choose a group to join depending on their particular area of interest. Then, encourage them to showcase their skills and knowledge to be awarded with leadership position. Children in leadership roles at school are more likely to succeed soon after they leave school because of their unique ability to utilize the skills they have to benefit a group.
Sport and recreational activities can be a great way to teach your child leadership skills. If they enjoy leadership, sporting activities and games can provide roles and positions they can inspire to, work towards and/or be elected into. These positions may include team captain, team manager, coach or assistant coach.(Janelle Farley)

Understanding Bullies

2009-10-23T14:22:00.000-07:00

I had a lot of experience with bullies back in elementary and junior high school. I know the pain of being bullied, and I have allowed bullies to make me behave in ways I wish I hadn't. There were times I caved into peer pressure and there were times I resisted it. In fact, if you were looking at a graph showing my popularity during my school years, you would clearly see where I resisted and where I gave in. After spending a great deal of time reviewing my life looking for life scripts, patterns, and windows of opportunity* in my life, I know that I have allowed myself to be bullied at school and in romantic relationships as well.

The "Bully window" was opened for me so many times that there is no doubt that this was an important must "learn item" on my spiritual "To Do" list for this lifetime. By becoming aware of the nature of bullies, I've been able to put an end to them in my work life and my personal life. My Guide Group has been very clear in the information they've provided on this subject, and here is the shocking news about bullies-we plan for the bullies in our lives! They are a type of relationship villain** and the learning that happens from this type of interaction is as important to the person being bullied as it is to the bully him/herself. Here is some interesting information about bullies from my Guide Group (the "GG"), which was dictated to help us gain a better perspective and understanding of this distinct type of relationship villain:

"Bullies are an ugly thing but they are very much a planned occurrence for any given lifetime. When someone bullies you, you feel badly about yourself. Bullies stab at one's self-esteem and make one feel that they are not good enough or smart enough to fit in with the 'in crowd.' When a soul decides to be bullied in a particular incarnation it is usually because they want to work on building confidence and self-esteem. We can tell you, too, that the 'idea' of being bullied when you are at the planning table is very much different from the actual feeling of the experience during an incarnation. Many things that seem like they will be a breeze to go through when you're on the planning side of the veil don't turn out to be easy once you are back in body.

Being the bully is not a job that souls cherish and if you look at them, really look at them, you'll see that they have issues they need to overcome, and the role of bully gives them the opportunity to do so. The person who bullies you is most likely your 'universal frenemy,' because only someone who truly loves you would want to take on such a nasty role. Those that love us want to help us achieve our goals and our growth in the shortest amount of time possible."

Looking back, there is no doubt that each of my bully experiences were windows of opportunity for learning-they were all pretty much the same (life script!) and were based on ostracizing someone. It pretty much went like this: the "in group" decided like didn't like someone, and if you were friends with that person or continued to stay friends with that person, then you were on the receiving end too.

The first time I experienced this I was in elementary school, and I'm sorry to say that I gave in. The next time I experienced it, I gave in as well. The next time I experienced it was in junior high school, and I didn't give in that time-I had always felt extremely guilty for what I had done in elementary school. For two years I was on the receiving end of a group of bullies, and I lost most of my friends. But I didn't back down this time-I stuck with my friend, learned the lesson, and I never had to go through this particular scenario again. In fact, when I was in High School, I had lots of friends from many different cliques.

So how did I deal with it during those two years of constant bullying? During those difficult times, I tried my best to ignore them and continue on with my life-I never let them see that what they were saying had any impact on me whatsoever. I wasn't "fun" for them because they got no reaction from me. I didn't lose all my friends, I still had a few, and they were a great support group for me, although I had no idea what a "support group" was at the time. I noticed that my particular bullies like to strike when you were alone, so having other people around definitely helped. I continued with my life and pursued the things that I liked best-I joined clubs, I took the classes that I knew would help get a job when I graduated from high school, and I excelled at those classes.

I developed a great deal of confidence and self-reliance during that time, and I met a lot of other people whom I eventually became friends with. But to put a stop to the "bully window of opportunity" repeating for me, I had to take a stand for what I believed in. I had to learn not to cave into peer pressure-that was my big lesson to learn and the bully experience was the tool for me to learn it.

We all have different lessons that we want to learn, that we planned to learn, during this incarnation. The best way to figure out how to stop attracting the same unpleasant circumstance, be it a bully situation, or something else, is to do a mini-life review and look for life scripts and patterns. Once you spot them, examine how you acted or re-acted in each situation and make adjustments in your behavior. Changing the way you deal with a situation that keeps repeating itself is the best way to complete a lesson and go through a window of opportunity.

And remember, we planned the bullies in our lives-hard to accept, I know, but becoming aware of our part in planning unpleasant experiences will help us wake up faster, spot the windows, learn the lesson, and expedite our spiritual growth.(Sherri Cortland,ND)

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Helping Kids Who Don't Like to Read

2009-10-23T03:20:00.000-07:00

Some kids love books and will spend hours poring over pages packed with words and very few pictures from an early age. Kids as young as 7 read Harry Potter books all the way through with very little help from their parents. Some kids just like the challenge of reading and learning new words on their own.

Other kids however struggle with the simplest of words and just don't seem to get it. It's not that they are dumb or lack motivation, it's just that reading is not their thing.

So how so you foster a love of books in kids when they don't seem to respond to stories that other kids their age seem to rave about?

It could be that the reluctant reader in question just needs a different style of book to nurture their interest. Some kids have a natural leaning towards visual imagery. Films, cartoons, video games. By transferring this love of images to books you can help these children see that words and pictures can convey a similar sense of excitement that these other mediums can.

If you know a child who is reluctant or downright resistant to reading "normal" books there are a couple of ways you can try to engage their interest in reading.

Comics and graphic novels are a very visually oriented medium that use words and images together to tell a story. You can find comics with themes like fantasy and adventure that are geared towards beginning and emerging readers and are sure to engage. Try "Bone" by Jeff Smith or "The Dreamland Chronicles" by Scott Christian Sava.

Visual reference books like "The New Way Things Work" and "The Visual Dictionary" are great for visual learners with an interest in building things.

And lastly, visual chapter books like Geronimo Stilton combine dynamic cartoon-like illustrations with segments of full colored text in different fonts. Chapters are short and vocabulary is not flowery or overly difficult. Geronimo Stilton is a wonderful role model for kids too. A mouse who loves learning but is brave as well.

There are a number of options you can choose to foster a love of learning in kids even if they come late to reading. Give them a try!

Find out more about Geronimo Stilton at http://www.geronimo-stilton.com/. A Geronimo Stilton News site maintained by a homeschooling mother and dedicated to promoting this popular chapter book series for kids.(Inger Fountain)

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How to Deal With Temper Tantrums Calmly

2009-09-02T01:59:00.000-07:00

Toddlers throw tantrums as a way of expressing anger and frustration. Learning to deal with temper tantrums takes patience, yelling and screaming will only cause the child to respond negatively. What causes a tantrum to form, how to deal with temper tantrums, to how to avoid a tantrum all together. This article will help answer your questions and help you and your toddler get past this phase.

Tantrums are evenly common among both boys and girls. Learning what causes tantrums can help you to deal with tantrums. Toddlers want a sense of independence, when they can't reach that goal, frustration and anger begin. They start to yell and scream, hit, or even throw themselves on the floor in fits of anger. Tantrums are a normal part of development and dealing with them is not difficult.

When you deal with temper tantrums always remain calm. Don't try to reason with a child who is having a fit, she is unlikely to listen to reason. Instead make sure she is in a safe place and allow her to kick and scream all she wants. Ignoring the behavior is one of the best ways to deal with tantrums. If a tantrum can be avoided please do so.

Preventing a tantrum from happening is the easiest way to deal with temper tantrums. A tired, hungry, or even bored child can be a big contributor to a tantrum. Avoid taking a trip to a friends house if your child has missed a nap or it's close to nap time. Schedule activities accordingly. Also, choose your battles with your toddler. Once you choose a battle stick to it though. Giving in will only make things worse.

An important thing to remember when you deal with temper tantrums is to stay calm and ignore the behavior. Don't punish the child, but don't reward the behavior either. They are just trying to learn how to express their feelings. They will grow out of this as they get older and learn to control their emotions.

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How To Make Kids Learn And Play

2009-09-02T00:53:00.000-07:00

Gone are the days where the emphasis was learning from the books and rote reading. Now, researchers have proved that ‘Play Way Method’ is a better way of teaching children. They grasp, learn, retain and implement them when they learn through the play way method. Therefore playing has become an integral part of development process.

It’s good to let the child be independent and play on their own. But it’s equally important for the parents to build their self confidence, self esteem, focus their attention and help in increasing their vocabulary and improve motor skills by interactively playing with them. They may not acquire these skills naturally, so they need to be taught to do it.

Watch and Learn

To play with the child, it’s important to observe their pattern of play. Some kids like to break open the toy and see the internal workings, some just look at the exteriors of it. It requires patience to watch and understand the child’s interest and playing accordingly.

Focus on their ideas

Once the parents have observed the child, they try to take the upper hand and ask the child to do what they want to do. Although the parents do it with the good intentions, they children may not view it that way. When kids are dominated by the parents, then they get a feeling of being unable to do anything. Also, the parents may end up doing something opposite of what the child wants to do. So while playing with the child, it’s always better to ask them what they want to play and how and follow their cue.

Use Information Talk

Information Talk is terminology used by the speech therapists to interact with the child. Its nothing but talking to the child about what they see, things they hear, what they think of it etc. When the parents discuss these with the children during the playtimes, it helps them to take note of the surroundings. Also it would help to learn about the modulations in speech, improve their language and sentence construction as well. Care should be taken to load the child with so information appropriate to their age. Too much of information may confuse them.

Squat and play

Above all, children like it very much when the parents and the carers sit with them on the floor and play with their toys.(mychildhealth.net)

Do You Know?Constructing Your Child's Healthy Sense of Self Esteem

2009-08-31T14:51:00.000-07:00

Your child's self esteem is their mental foundation. A self-assured child is confident, secure, happy, well-adjusted and successful. They can solve problems that come their way, and it thrives under a loving parent's nurturing care. What are some good ways to built self esteem in your child?

Most importantly, accept your child for who they are, and help them do the same. Teach your child that nobody is perfect, and that everyone makes mistakes. Show them how to learn and grow from their mistakes, and let them know that you also make mistakes. Children with high self esteem are able to take lessons from mistakes and apply them down the road. A child with low self esteem become frustrated and resort to self-depreciating behavior, such as calling themselves 'stupid' and vowing to 'never try that again.

Help your child discover their abilities and talents, and encourage outlets for them to build on and improve them. Praise a child not only for improvements in abilities and skills, but also for the traits they naturally possess. Encourage your child to make positive choices. Open an honest dialog with your child and discuss the possibilities with them. Children who learn skills for making positive choices when they are younger are well-prepared for the tougher choices they have to make when they are older.

Ensure that you spend lots of quality time with your child, at least once a week. Whether you are shooting baskets or going out to grab a hamburger, take time to talk and keep in touch. If you find it difficult to squeeze in quality time during a hectic week, take the time to talk about things during the drive to school or while they are helping you put the groceries away.

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Parenting Help For Busy Parents

2009-08-26T12:41:00.000-07:00

Being a parent is a wonderful part of life but at times it can prove to be the most challenging as well. No matter how well prepared you are there will be many situations that will spring a surprise on you.

One of the most vital things is to realise that you as a parent will need help. Most parents believe that they are always right or that they are in control of their relationships and discover the difficult way that that was not the case. Most of us like to think that we cope admirably as a parent and therefore do not need parenting help. However, parenting help is not always just needed because you are not good at being a parent, but also may be needed because you want to understand your child better.

In today's world we have many problems to address and deal with at one time, which in turn can cause tensions for both yourself and your child over a period of time. While you may be having finance, marital and emotional issues your child may be dealing with his/her own challenges, which can create conflict.

If you are already experiencing parenting difficulties or you're trying to avoid future conflict, there are many specialist organizations that provide parenting help. These organizations can be reached either in the area that you live or via the internet.
Parental assistance may be needed particularly if your child is experimenting with dangerous practises such as smoking, drinking alcohol or worse, experimenting with drugs. If this is happening experts should be contacted as soon as possible. While you can discuss abusing alcohol and smoking with your child before the situation gets out of hand, getting involved with drugs usually needs help right that instant as any delay can lead to your child's death.

Parenting aid will provide you and your child with help in these situations because it will be challenging or both of you. Therefore, do not delay to contact experts for help and defuse the situation before it is too late.

Where To Look For Parenting Help

The Internet is the best place to look for parenting help. Online you will get several courses and websites, which will help the parents as well as the children in many difficult circumstances. Parental aid does not only provide advice in desperate times but also on everyday matters, where some parents may want to find a better way to deal with situations.

Parenting Chat Rooms

Regardless of a parent’s situation, there is most likely an online parenting chat room to suit their needs There are probably thousands of these parenting chat groups across the globe, making connecting with other parents more accessible than ever. Parenting chat rooms are a great source of parenting tips and aid.

The 'birthday group' is a popular parenting chat room found online. The 'birthday group' is generally joined by pregnant women or expectant parents. They will sign up through a website and then, the expectant mothers get in touch with one another to discuss their lives, pregnancies, older children, etc. These parenting chat and email rooms provide such a wonderful service for expectant parents, particularly when it is their first child.

There are people who have belonged to the same parenting chat room for over ten years. It's quite incredible that people continue to communicate with one another on a daily basis over ten years. Relationships formed in parenting chat rooms can become lifelong friendships, built on a lifetime of experience.

Parents who have children with special needs will often turn to their computer for information regarding their child’s particular disability or special need. One of the most useful resources that a parent can find via an internet connection is a high quality parenting chat room that is geared specifically to parents who can share their unique situation.

Dealing with the lifestyle changes required in order to care for a special needs child is often exhausting and stressful.
Parenting chat rooms give parents a forum to share their concerns, their successes, their frustrations and their emotions. Because a parenting chat room is virtual, it makes it easier to share true feelings.(Gregory De Villiers)